DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband told me to “let my hair down” on a girls’ holiday, so I did – and ended up pregnant with what could be another man’s baby.
Lockdown had been hard. I was put on furlough early on, so was left looking after the kids while my husband went out to work.
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He is 42, I am 36 and our kids are five and three.
It was exhausting. Not a day went by that didn’t involve a tantrum and tears.
One of my friends had just split with her boyfriend of three years, and with restrictions easing, my husband agreed I could go to Portugal with her for a break.
We jetted off. Every evening, we would go to the same bar to flirt with guys then head on to a club.
The first few nights I was well behaved, but then I met a particular man. He was very confident, almost arrogant, but gorgeous enough to justify it.
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I was open about the fact I was married, but he continued to flirt and grind with me in the club.
As we walked home at 4am, we stopped on the beach. He leaned in for a kiss, and I didn’t stop him. Next thing I knew, we were having sex, right there on the sand.
I felt awful — I’m not the sort of person to cheat and sleep around. But that didn’t stop me going to his room the next night.
I told myself it was OK, because it was just sex — there were no feelings behind it.
My friend and I agreed to keep it our little holiday secret. We have been friends for 20-plus years, so I knew I could trust her.
But a month later, I realised my period was late. A test confirmed my worst fears — I’m pregnant.
My husband and I slept together the night I got home, so it could be his. But do I tell him there’s a chance it’s not?
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DEIDRE SAYS: However difficult it may be, you should come clean with your husband.
While you trust your friend, these things do tend to come out and the fallout would be far worse if your husband heard it from someone else.
Your partner will be hurt, and this will have damaged the trust between you. My support pack Cheating – Can You Get Over It? can help you move forward.
I’m also sending you one on unplanned pregnancy which explains your options.
As you had unprotected sex, it would also be wise to get an STI check – for the sake of both you and your husband.
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